The Truth About Life’s Bumps

So, my beloved ’99 Jeep died recently.

Long-time blog followers will understand the implications of this tragedy. They’ll also know that this is not our first, shall we say, incident.  (Behold…this photo from last year’s mildly embarrassing post).jeep

This time around (which was totally not my fault by the way), the story goes a bit differently.

I present it to you now in three acts.

Act I: The Death

It was Hubbie who made the discovery about this little bump in life’s road.

We’d decided to split up to run some errands, then meet up back home for an afternoon of doing…well, nothing. Wonderful, luxurious, nothing.

“What do you mean it died?” I snarked into my cell phone after he broke the news that the Jeep wouldn’t start. “How? What did you do?”

My irritation climbed as I rushed back to meet him…as I thought about the impending inconvenience and expense, the fact that my day of nothing would now require a whole lot of…something.

Sooooo annoying!

Act II: The Experiment

I finally stopped my internal blustering and took a breath, recalling an article I’d read the day before. It stated the following:

Every thought is a choice.


My first thought upon reading this?

What a load of bunk! My thoughts are way too fast, way too emotionally-based for me to be able to control them. They’re a part of who I am!

Yet now, as the icky, angry feelings arose in me, I decided to test this little theory.

I remembered that it’s not the bumps in life’s road, but the thoughts we have about them, that actually make us miserable.

And so I decided to change mine.

I pictured my mind as a non-stick pan, bouncing back the negative thoughts into space. Instead I told myself that since there was nothing I could do, I needed to accept the situation. To deal with it.

I then let in other thoughts…reminded myself that it could’ve been worse, that one of us could’ve been stranded when this happened, that I could’ve been on my way to meet a client.

I even smiled a bit, realizing that I might have just found a new topic for a blog post.

Unfortunately, Hubbie was not in the same mental space when I found him back home.

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His angry muttering and groaning could be heard even before I saw him…before I saw the sweat on his brow, the cuts on his fingers, the scowl on his face.

Hubbie had no desire to push back the irritable thoughts, especially when he had to push the Jeep to the spot where a tow-truck driver could hook it up. (And I decided to document it.)

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As we got in his car and followed the tow truck driver, I (very carefully) told him about my little experiment.

I actually found myself laughing as I recalled my initial thoughts. And, I swear, by the time we got to the repair shop he was cracking a hint of a smile about the whole thing.

Because he allowed himself to think differently, too.

Act III: The Lesson…and a Few Big, Fat Caveats

What this little experiment showed me is that our thoughts are indeed a choice.

Every…single…one of them.

Life’s bumps are often not in our control…but those thoughts? They sure are. And the choices we make about them can make those bumps better…or much, much worse.

Now…a few caveats.

Some bumps are much worse than a Jeep dying, so the thoughts are more severe. I get it…though I will say that I personally know people who have changed their thoughts about very difficult situations and been happier (my Dad, who faced multiple bouts with cancer, is one inspiring example).

I also know that sometimes we actually want to let the anger in, because venting it out feels good in some way.

The important thing is to know that when we allow any thought in, we are making a choice to do so. Even during a life bump. Especially during one.

Sure, negative thought-bombs can bombard our minds at dizzying speeds. But the fact is that they come from within us…perhaps not consciously, but from within us nonetheless.

And we don’t have to let them stay there. We can choose to think differently, to accept the situation, to focus on something better, something happy.

And that is what we want, right? To be happy?

That’s what I felt once I made a different choice about my thoughts. Hubbie, too.

And I’m sure that’s what I’ll feel when the Jeep is back, safe and sound (I’m awaiting some good news from the mechanic as I write this.)

If nothing else, I have some new photos to remember it by.

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In the meantime, I can finally look ahead to our wonderful, luxurious afternoon of nothing.

Now that I’ve finished writing this blog post.

Sooooo happy!

This week…

Pay attention to your thoughts. Recognize which ones are bringing you down.

Know that you have a choice with each and every one.

Then make the choices that make you happier.

Now, go do good…and do it well.

10 thoughts on “The Truth About Life’s Bumps

  1. Nancy says:

    Love it. Had my very own moment yesterday. Didn’t handle it as well. Funny how timing is everything. Thanks for your email.

  2. You hit the nail on the head – or should I say the car on the bumper…I think of it as what we think (vice how we feel) feeds our internal environment like fuel to a furnace – how hot the flames run, from warming smile or to scorched earth – depends on all the thought fuell we’ve used to stoke the furnace. The hard part is the “habit”…the easy and first thoughts that sit closest to the shovel and the furnace opening. Passing those – as you did – to get the good stuff can be really difficult, but doing so can ignite a warm reaction in someone else – as you did with your husband. Ok, not to overheat, but that’s enough extended metaphor. Really good choice of subject!

  3. Cheri Friedman says:

    This is so true. I lost my position a week ago due to someone else not understanding how budgets work and spending money that we didn’t have. I’m looking at this as an opportunity to move onto something better. As a friend said to me after this happened, ‘You can look at this as a glass half full or half empty.’ My response was, ‘It doesn’t matter how you look at the glass, you can always refill it.’

  4. Patty says:

    Great example and lesson learned Deirdre. I find I have to feel those uncomfortable feelings only for a short – very short – time and then turn it around. I can be bitter or better and like you I want to be better AND HAPPY! Thanks again

    1. Bitter or better…it comes down to such a simple choice, yes? Thanks Patty!

  5. Craig B says:

    …and it’s all small stuff anyway. Right? Very appropriate reminder.

  6. Hannah Wilder says:

    Thanks, Deirdre. This was just what I needed this morning to help get me out of a funk that was all self-created.

  7. Love all of these comments – and the many metaphors! I KNEW I wasn’t the only one shoveling into the furnace…

  8. Tina Lee says:


    This was so timely for me. At times when I seem in a funk I tell my self to get over it and change my stinking thinking. Recently I wasn’t doing that and your blog reminded me to think POSITIVE thoughts for positive results. This reminds me of one of my favorite sayings by Charles Swindoll speaking on attitude: I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. Thanks for the reminder!! You’re AWESOME!!

    1. Love that quote by Charles Swindoll…thanks for sharing your story. You’re awesome back!

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