How to Have a Crappy Conversation

This week brought an interesting theme. Two of my colleagues – and me - all found ourselves in a universally dreaded situation. We had to have crappy conversations. And they Stressed. Us. Out. (Nooooo sleeping here.) Colleague #1? He had to tell his somewhat-non-performing staff member who really loved working from home…that he would no longer be...
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The Boomerang Effect

A recent work trip found me networking with two women I hadn’t met before.  It didn’t take long before I noticed a pattern pop up. Let’s see if you catch it. Woman #1: Whew, it’s so great to be here because I thought I might not make it. My daughter just had her wisdom teeth out and it turns out they were all impacted… Woman #2: I know what you mean! My ...
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The Three Letters That Change Everything

So here’s a bit of random Deirdre trivia for you (which, I promise, will lead to a greater point). I can’t cook. I’m not a good chopper, I’m not good at putting flavors together, and I’m impatient…which means I hike up the oven temperature to save time, leading to messes like this: I’ve staked my claim on the I-can’t-cook thing for quite some ti...
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The Happiness Ratio

I recently found myself chatting with a woman I hadn’t met before. She was working a whole lot of hours. She had several kids. She didn’t sleep much. At all. I was overwhelmed just listening to her, and asked if it was all worth it, if she was happy. She turned the question around and asked me – in all seriousness – how she’d know. And so I told her ab...
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The Number One Way to Get What You Want

So…there’s an interesting trend to report in the life of Deirdre. At first it might sound like it’s the high-and-mighty variety, but I promise you it’s not. The trend? People tend to give me things I want. A few examples: The guy in front of me at Starbucks let me go ahead of him in line because I was in a hurry (and he had a loooong list of drink...
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