Why You Must Consider the Other Option

Recently I needed a favor. I was working on a new project, and I was stuck. Really stuck. I needed advice on how to “unstick” from someone who’d been there. And I knew who that perfect someone was. Martha Martha was awesome. She’d done something similar to what I was trying to do and she’d hit it out of the park. She was also smart and nice. The kin...
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The Big Small Talk Mistake

“You get to do the conversation if this one is chatty.” These are actual words I said to Hubby as we awaited our Lyft Driver at 4:45AM last week. We were about to fly out of town and were ready to roll. All we needed was to get to the airport. Which is when we used an app to get a ride. The thing that wasn't on the app? A way to let the driver know ...
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When Others Tell You Way Too Much

If I ever had a doubt that life has a funny sense of humor, I sure remembered it last week. It happened on the day I flew into Colorado to give a presentation on networking - specifically, on how to talk to anybody at anytime. It was the very same day that a few folks decided to talk to me about a whole lot more than I bargained for. These people couldn't...
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The Quickest Way to Kill a Connection

I’ve talked a lot about what I believe to be the key to a successful life. And a happy one. Connecting with people. It gets others to believe us and trust us… Which makes them want to engage with us on a deeper level… And refer others to do the same… I’ve touched on why this is trickier than it sounds – and one guaranteed way to do it - in what’s turne...
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How to be Interesting

Let’s face it. We all want others to find us interesting. Being interesting is how we engage, how we connect. It’s how we make friends, grow our circle of professional colleagues. And, as good leaders know, it’s how we get what we want. Why? Because being interesting helps create relationships. And relationships are everything. I’m writing this blog whil...
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How We Mess Up Our Connections to People

Great leaders know the key to success is getting to know people. Lots of them. Getting their respect is critical. Being likeable also helps. No matter your aspirations…your contacts matter. They connect you to other professionals, to opportunities, to futures you don't even know yet.   There are all kinds of ways to engage people (for one easy method, check...
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